Skip to main content

Three Questions

  1. If the church were not true, would you want to know?
  2. If the church were not true, how would you know?
  3. If the church were not true, what would you do
I came across these three questions in the ex-mormon subreddit. It is an example of epistemology (the investigation of what distinguishes justified belief from opinion) and is helpful in analyzing your reaction to the possibility of being wrong. This is particularly meaningful to individuals that belong to a theistic belief system or organization that claims ultimate truth, while simultaneously that organization might also discourage doubts or questions. As a Mormon, these are important questions to consider. I think many members of the church would say yes to question 1, but would start to use apologetics to defend their answer for question 2. After all, even the Book of Mormon suggests asking if something is "Not True" in order to gain a testimony;

Moroni 10:4
And when ye shall receive these things, I would exhort you that ye would ask God, the Eternal Father, in the name of Christ, if these things are not true; and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, he will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost.
Therefore, chances are that a true believing member of the church would simply say "I'd pray about it" to question 2. Unfortunately, for those of us who do not trust personal revelation or faith as a reliable means to discover truth, prayer isn't a reasonable or reliable mechanism. I think the answer to question 2 is implied, you research information from multiple reliable sources. To find out if something you believe in is not true, you should ask questions, investigate, research sources from inside and outside the belief system, and you try to rid yourself of bias. If you are able to do this with a firm belief, you will probably realize that your reasons for believing are flawed.

For question 3, this is a personal reaction. For some people it can be a traumatic experience realizing they believe in something that isn't true or that might not be true. It can result in an emotional response of anger, sadness, or feeling deceived. A first response may be to leave that belief system completely or to even fight against it. This seems to be pretty common and I've observed this among ex-mormons. Another result could be to just believe anyway or at least to pretend that you still believe. This is probably out of habit or fear of leaving a belief system that has defined someones entire lifestyle. For me, once I realized I no longer held a belief in God, I chose to continue going through the motions of a believer for the sake of those around me, the people I love. Sometimes, that's all that can be done. It is also because of fear that I don't admit my lack of belief, fear that admitting so would result in losing the people I love.

Even though these three questions refer to "the church", I think they can be reworded in order to address any belief.
  1. If something you believe in is wrong, would you want to know?
  2. If your belief could be wrong, how would you find out?
  3. If you realized your belief is wrong, what would you do?

In this way, it is easy to evaluate a closely held belief and attempt to understand yourself better. I try to ask myself these questions in regards to beliefs I feels strongly about, whether they be scientific, theories, or just personal ideas. It helps me keep a skeptical mindset and be open to the possibility that I could be wrong. I think the ability to accept that I could be wrong and to be open to new information help me stay humble and honest.


Popular posts from this blog

Telling My Wife I Don't Believe

I finally told my wife that I no longer believe. At the beginning of this year, The Mormon Church made some significant changes to the ceremonies in the temple. Growing up in the church, it was common to hear how priesthood ordinances like baptism and temple work were unchanging and had to be done exactly to script. Because of this, we would frequently mock the Catholic church for how often they change their ceremonies and practices to suit more modern audiences. However, now that there are several changes being made to the Mormon ceremonies, most members of the church are praising these amazing "new revelations."

An Introduction

The goal of this blog is to express my own journey out of theistic belief with an emphasis on LDS (Latter Day Saints/Mormon) indoctrination. I will not be attacking specific doctrines or church history. Rather, It is my hope that by working through my own thoughts and struggles I can inspire and support those who may be in similar situations and to inform others how this transition can be a difficult one. I plan on exploring topics like faith, morals, the supernatural, depression, and more. Please feel free to comment and discuss as I am open to alternative perspectives and insight. For more info, please visit my about me page.

Hope For My Kids

My oldest son has a very intuitive mind. Even when he was a toddler he would think things through very carefully and be really observant. As he grew up, he would constantly ask questions about how something worked or what it does. I even remember when he was about 4 years old, he sincerely asked my wife why he should love Jesus. He asked: I don't really know him, he's not here, so why do I need to love him? I think my wife answered something about how even if we don't see him, we should still love him because he's the savior. He has asked these types of questions about the church and my wife usually gives the standard church answer. If he asks me, I try to turn it back on him and ask what he thinks. I think it's a great exercise in critical and skeptical thinking.